Better Bedroom Performance
Q: I recently heard three of my girlfriends complaining about men's performance techniques in the bedroom. Now I am completely paranoid and am wondering if there are any books I can read to help me be a better lover.
Why do you assume their complaints fit you? There are many books available to read on this topic (check out amazon.com), and perhaps a good place to start, but anyone can read a book on love making and be mechanical and anxious about it. The real pro is someone who is connected, caring, considerate and communicative with their partner. She/he will feel very special and desired if you start the process outside the bedroom. Have fun together, laugh together, share experiences together, be sincere. Since every individual is unique, talk to your partner about her likes and dislikes-LISTEN and remember. Do the same in a relaxed setting in the bedroom and allow yourself to be vulnerable with her. Be engaged in the present with the person next to you and stop worrying about your performance techniques since that certainly will not give you the results you want.
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