It's Never Too Late to Change

Q: About 3 months ago I suffered a broken heart. The resulting stress and grief let loose demons from over 30 years ago. In desperation for answers I started reading self-help books and on-line articles. I now know what the demons are that have been affecting my life up to now. They are 1. Abandonment 2.Self-Esteem and 3.Emotional Immaturity. I'm now 46 and getting help now that I know what the enemies are. Do you think I have enough time left to turn my life around?

I am sorry to hear you are in pain, but encouraged you are ready to do something about it. I can tell you based on my experience with individuals just like you that personal growth knows no age limit. Oddly enough, it's the curve balls, such as loss and heartache, that force people to look inward and make positive changes.

One client, for example, is a 48 year old woman who was an acting vice president with a Fortune 500 company who harbored dreams of breaking off on her own. A lay off last December was devastating, but also the impetus she needed to start her own direct marketing response agency. Now she has 4 major clients in less than six months and a thriving new business.

Similarly, Mark is a 52 year old who had put on 40 pounds over the course of a miserable marriage. When his wife finally served him with papers, he decided to get his life back and began an exercise and diet program. Now 45 pounds trimmer, Mark is feeling better about himself than he did when he was in his thirties.

Based on the note you submitted, it sounds like you have already started turning your life around! As you continue along this personal journey here are a few things to keep in mind that will help ensure success.

1. Set Goals: Rushed expectations will lead to disappointment. To start off right, make a list of 3-5 goals that are realistic and give yourself a timeline for achieving your objectives.

2. Take Small Bites: It is important to be gentle with yourself, especially if you are suffering from a broken heart. Try breaking down each goal into smaller steps and incorporating some tasks into your life that will allow you to achieve the grander objective.

3. Swap Habits: Remember that a good way to break bad habits is by substituting them with ones that are good for you.

4. Monitor your Results: Tracking progress allows you to see the incremental changes and will keep motivation in check. Make sure to recognize the smallest breakthroughs and celebrate each of your successes and milestones.

You've already tackled one of the hardest parts --- recognizing your issues and the need to address them. Good luck with your journey of self-discovery, and remember to treat yourself as kindly as you would hope others would.

Best of luck,

Sherri

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