Megan

Q: When and why did you start writing a

bout your journey as a single woman?
I started my blog in January of 2010. It was a New Year’s Resolution for myself, screw the “losing weight” thing … it never works! I wanted to start something I could stick with and express my creativity. I’ve always been big into writing, keeping a written journal all throughout my childhood. I was dating a lot when I first starting blogging and instead of telling my story of the date over and over to my friends and family, I figured it would be easier to just write it in one place where they can all visit and read at their own pace. But throughout my entries, I changed it up a bit. It went from just a dating blog to a journey blog. I talk about my thoughts about life and marriage, my troubles with school and family and you see how my confidence can go from bottom of the barrel to the top of the trees. It makes me incredibly vulnerable to criticism by putting myself out there as I do but it also helps people see a different way of thinking.

Q: What do you think is the biggest challenge for singles in their twenties who are trying to find their place in the world?
I think the biggest challenge for singles in their twenties is trying to “do it all.” I can’t speak for everyone but I want to accomplish so many things before I get married and start a family. I work numerous jobs, am taking courses and try to have a social life all at the same time. I am trying to get as much in now so I don’t have to work so hard when I’m older. I can’t say it’s not possible, because my life pretty much rocks right now, but it can sometimes be extremely draining. I mean, how are we supposed to look great on Friday night’s date when we have very little sleep. But at the same time, we need to have very little sleep so we can get everything done during the week in order to have play time on the weekends.

Q:  We understand you have a handbag obsession. What are three things you keep in your pocket book at all times that every single girl should carry?
I think “obsession” is taking it lightly. Handbags are taking over my life (and my closet!). I think handbags and scarves are two staple pieces that really pull together an outfit. I am incredibly proud of the Michael Kors tote bag that I’ve been sporting since April, a birthday gift to myself (as if I need a reason to buy another purse). Normally I change my handbags every two weeks! As far as three things to keep in your purse at all times:
1.      Business cards – Network! Network! Network! You never know who you’ll meet throughout the day. Plus it’s way easier to just hand over a card to a cute guy than having to yell your digits out over the bar music. It’s professional, impressive and puts you one notch above everyone else who whips out a pen to write down their contact info!
2.      Gum or hard candy - Unless you're constantly drinking water (and even sometimes if you are constantly) your breath gets stale. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than approaching a gorgeous person to spark a chat and smelling a garbage can at the utter of their first word. It immediately eliminates cool points and turns you away. Make sure your breath is always on point.
3.      Lip-gloss – Or chapstick, whatever floats your boat. But make sure those beautiful lips of yours are not all dry and peeling when you go to talk with a guy. The light hitting the gloss on those babies will make them even more attracted to you.

Q: Best places to play in your town when you are not working, studying, writing or shopping?
Hands down, at my Nana’s house. My Nana is a huge inspiration to me. She raised four children practically on her own while enduring a really abusive relationship. She’s the most independent woman I know and has a heart of gold. I try to see her at least once a week, for lunch dates or dinner and a movie. She’s like my therapist, except cheaper! I don’t want to say I blame my tough shell towards relationships on her but she has definitely influenced how I view dating and relationships. One conversation with her makes everything more clear, and I always leave her house with something to blog about!

Q: We understand you are using Twitter and Facebook to connect with like-minded single gals. How have these social networking tools helped feed your circle of friends?
I am one of the last single girls in my group of friends. Most of them are married, with children or in serious long-term relationships. For a while I thought there was something wrong with me! Why am I the only one who’s not interested in tying the knot right now and making babies? Why am I the only one who is dating multiple men and enjoying being single? Facebook didn’t really connect me as much as Twitter has. I have had the opportunity to find numerous dating bloggers that have the same mentality as me, showing me I’m not crazy! I follow one woman in particular, who tweets the best quotes and makes me feel empowered to accomplish whatever I desire. Twitter has allowed me to connect with people all over the world, much like some of the dating websites have allowed me to meet people out of my “bubble.” The greatest day on Twitter was when one of my followers from Scotland tweeted to me “#ff @MissMegasaurus she is the Carrie Bradshaw of my world. Eloquent and well...educational!!” That’s why I love what I do!

Q: What is your theory on recycling men between friends?
Oh what a touchy subject. It really depends on the individual and the friendship. I mean, I have friends of mine who have dated some raunchy men, and of course us women share stories! But at the same time, some of the men they’ve dated seem like the perfect man to me and it just boggles my mind on why it never worked. I think with my close group of girlfriends (which is a group of about 5 women) I would not date any of their ex-men. However, when it comes to my acquaintances, if they give me the go I might take a stab at one of their “throw-a-ways.”

Q:  Your home state of New Jersey seems to be getting a lot of slack in the headlines lately. Care to defend the Garden State?
What you see on TV is just one side of NJ. Yes, we have those GTL men. I work at a gym; I see them all the time. We have men whose arms are bigger than your thighs and tans that are faker than Pamela Anderson’s boobs. But it’s an exaggerated version of what the majority of New Jersey is like. I think people from New Jersey have that little extra snip in their words, we can take the heat and hand it back to you ten-fold. We have strong family values and would do anything for them and our relationships with others are dear to our heart. We do everything wholeheartedly. Now don’t get me wrong, we love a good sauce and table flip but not all of us are prostitution whores who were engaged nineteen times! New Jersey gets a lot of bad wrap being “The Armpit of America” but if you don’t like it, then leave!

Q: Since we are on that topic, Bon Jovi or Springsteen and why?
Both are geniuses! I dare you to find a Jersey Girl who will choose one over the other. Their voices come on the radio and you can’t help but sing and dance!

Q: You are very passionate about your career. What are your ultimate goals as a journalist?
I am extremely passionate about my career and empowering women. Ultimately I’d love to become an editor for a magazine or a website. I’ve attempted to take a stab at match-making since I blog about relationships/love/dating but haven’t gotten a good enough bite. I just want to make a difference, reach out to enough women (or men in some cases too!) who are seeking help in expressing themselves and finding what they are looking for. One day, hopefully within the next 10 years, I’d love to write a “Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating” book; a somewhat humorous recap on some of my experiences as well as a self-help book on how to go about the unknown world of virtual dating. If you know of a good publisher let me know!

Q: Any other words of wisdom?
Take your time! Don’t rush to get married and have kids. Don’t go crazy if you haven’t found that perfect job or perfect apartment. Right where you are is right where you should be. Your life is happening just as it was intended to and you should be proud of all that you’ve accomplished and excited for all that’s yet to come. Oh, and always wear cute underwear, you never know you’ll run into!

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