More on What Men Think

Q: Where are you from?
I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area. Windsor, California in Sonoma County to be exact. I moved to Los Angeles in 2003 to finish college and ended up settling here for work.

Q: Best solo activity?
Grocery shopping. I love to cook, so I get the "kid in a candy shop" syndrome when I pass the produce section. It's a great solo activity because I get to choose what I buy, cook and eat.

Q: Best place to meet new people?
Local film festivals, theater, art exhibitions, open mic nights, etc. Anywhere that young artists are present, they will bring their friends with them. Everyone is eager to learn about each other and share their art. These events have a very friendly and inviting atmosphere.

Q: Best local restaurant for one?
I live in Los Angeles Korea Town, so the best local restaurants are Korean. My favorite place to go alone is 'Yu Chun Chic Naeng Myun' at 3185 Olympic Blvd. Try the Naeng Myun (cold noodles) with Galbi (Korean BBQ short ribs) and Steamed Kimchi Dumplings. Many people eat alone here, so you will be in good company.

Q: What prompted you to start blogging?
I started blogging a year after my sister was killed by a drunk driver. She was a huge part of my life and who I am. Growing up, I could always ask her for dating or relationship advice. Even my close friends would ask my older sister for dating advice. It was great to have an inside view on 'What Women Think.' She was always honest with us, even if that meant telling us something we didn't want to hear. I decided to start blogging at "What Men Think" to emulate that same honest and constructive counsel.

Q. Tell us a little bit about your blog.
My blog can be found at "http://whatmenthink.wordpress.com/". The general concept of the blog is in the title: "What men think." Men and women are fundamentally different. They are physically different and psychologically different. Unfortunately, each gender expects the other to think by exactly the same logic and reasoning as themselves. In order to communicate between our very different genders, we make concessions. For example: A man loves his wife. So, he buys her a nice bouquet of flowers. As a man, he feels like flowers are a waste of money. However, he knows that his wife will know that he loves her by this simple token. The man in this scenario knows "What women think," but not why. However, "why" is unimportant to him, because he has already conveyed his message. In the same way, if women were to know what men think (not why), then they would be able to communicate their ideas and feelings in a way that men could understand.

Q. How has blogging affected your personal and dating life?
My blog is anonymous and doesn't affect my personal or dating life very much at all. The few friends that know about my blog have heard me ranting on all these subjects before, so they don't find it all that shocking. I have yet to meet someone in person through my blog, but who knows?

Q: What do you think is the single biggest mistake people make when it comes to dating?
Having an unhealthy reaction to rejection. Being either too afraid of rejection or oblivious to rejection can be detrimental to your dating life. Everyone is afraid of rejection to some degree. That is why we feign disinterest and play games with each other. If you are too afraid, you play too many games and everyone ends up being confused. If you are oblivious to rejection, you don't play any games and end up coming off as too forward or creepy.

Q: What advice would you give to someone who has dating burn-out?
Enjoy the periods that you are single. Being single and doing everything that is associated with single life is what prepares you for commitment and marriage. Once you've experienced your fill of single life, you will be ready for commitment.

Q: If a guy does not call after a first date should the woman make the move? What if he does not call after the first night in bed?
Traditionally, we play by the rules set by some archaic dating expert. However, I believe that the rules are rapidly changing in an increasingly egalitarian society. Modern men are less assertive and modern women are more assertive. This is a natural progression towards equality. If the man is a bit timid, then it's fine for the woman to call and get a feel for what's going on between them. If the man is assertive, he hasn't called on purpose. Forget about him. This applies to both questions.

Q: What do you love most about being Single??????
The excitement and expectation before a first date.