Mr. Right or Mr. Rich?

Q: I am a forty two year old single woman trying to find love in the big city. I meet lots of attractive, smart and funny men none of them are as financially well-off as I would like them to be. I work very hard and want a life partner who wants to live a luxurious lifestyle just like I do.

Despite these challenging times, women seeking Mr. Rich and not-always-so Right continue to kvetch and mourn about the national deficit of uber-wealthy single men.

To the many single ladies out there who wonder about these things, listen up: There are plenty of eligible bachelors still on the scene but, like the rest of the country, they are making cutbacks and concessions, becoming more discerning daters and taking a more humble approach by not flaunting their earnings.

If your idea of true love is Botox and Birkin bags, then you have a problem. Admitting as much is the first step towards your recovery. If you’re serious about your program then here are some next steps to try:

1. Don’t Expect Him to Be Just Like Your Daddy: Consider yourself charmed and privileged if you have a closet full of Louboutin shoes, but don’t just date men who can pick up the tab (or deficit) for your high taste treasures where Daddy left off.

2. Dare to Dine at Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives: Even if you’ve been spoiled by the sophisticated and swanky restaurant scene, when invited, always accept dine-out-on-a-dime invitations. It’s amazing what juicy hot dogs and a walk in the park on a hot and sticky day can do for your love life!

3. Attention to How he Treats You, Not What he Treats You To: If you don’t, don’t be surprised if you end up in the Ruth Madoff cursed wives club.

4. Date Outside the Box: To all you high earning power women, wake up! You’re not the only ones who put in 60 hours a week. There are plenty of great men out there who work just as hard as you, so shame on you if you only date money guys.

5. The Entitled Princess: “Buy me, do me, get me” is an enchanting outlook but do yourself some good and save it for the fairy tales.

No one wants to or should ever settle for anything less than they deserve. But keep in mind that the opposite of settling, which so many of us fear, is unsettling. And what’s far more disturbing is if you spend your time searching for Mr. Rich rather than Mr. Right, assuming of course love is what you are truly seeking.

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