Notes from Top Single Bloggers

By SingleEdition.com Think you are the last solo person standing? Then it's time to think again. We recently took a trip into the blogosphere in search of those bold enough to broadcast their personal stories. From first-hand accounts by those searching for the one,to those getting back into the game after a split or tragic loss, what follows are excerpts from a few of our favorite bloggers

Young Widows Guide to Grieving: "These incidents are what I call the sucker punches. They're the things that hit you out of the blue, the hits you're not ready for. They're immediate, they're intense and they're unexpected. These are the moments that grab you by the throat or twist in your gut, the moments where time stands still for one whole second, and when it starts again the pain is so immediate that you can no longer think or feel anything else. When they hit me I usually stop breathing and can no longer stand. The sucker punches are things that hit you in the face with reality, the moments when you can hold no other understanding in the universe except that they're dead, dead and gone."

Busy Mom Online: "If there's one bit of advice I can give you as you separate, divorce and move on with your lives, it's to ditch the "co" and just parent when your children need you the most. It's the best gift you can give them. You'll be surprised, like I was, how all those old wounds don't even cross your mind when you're sitting in the consultation room waiting for the surgeon to come out and tell you how things went. I hope it doesn't happen to you, but if it does, put it all away for a while and just parent."

The Millar's Tale: "I've begun to realize that the reason men and women don't communicate is because they speak different languages. Women talk about feelings. Men talk about sports. Women talk about relationships, about their inner most hopes, dreams and fears. Men talk about sports. Women talk about where they've been, where they are and where they hope to be. Men, on the other hand, talk about . . . sports."

40's Singleness: "Most importantly, at least in my eyes, is finding someone who accepts you on every level. As I've said before, when you're dating in your 40's, you've been through some shit. Unless you've been locked in a closet for 40 years, you've done some things and made some choices that were less than stellar. And you worry that you'll be judged because of them. The thing is this: Those things, those decisions made you the person you are today. I know that the person I am would not exist otherwise. And the person I am today is one helluva catch. The lucky man who discovers and accepts who I am on every level, is in for a lifetime of love like he never imagined."

Black Picket Fences: "Do you really think the glass slipper was comfortable? Heck no. And I'm sure Sleeping Beauty and Snow White's breath smelled horrid when they awoke from their deep sleep. There's an ugly, unfinished side to fairy tales in which the story ends and reality begins. We see good triumph over evil, time and again, however I would have liked to see what happened when the little mermaid actually moved in with the Prince following their oh-so fabulous wedding. Why is it that these women (with the exception of Mulan who I must say was pretty awesome) found purpose when a love interest entered their lives?"

SoloMother.com: "There was a group of single mothers who met last week, and I was delighted by the many ways in which these women found themselves to be single mothers. Adoption. Passionate affairs! And yes, divorce. We were so excited to meet each other, and it was a strong, dynamic, lovely group of women. All those struggling mother stories the media likes to trot out at this time of year, combined with the reality of the single mothers I know in real life, made me curious. Who are you, out there? What makes you tick? Inquiring minds want to know."

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