Post-Wedding Blow Off

Q: I was invited to a wedding by long-lost friends, and after I attended their weddings, I've never heard from them again aside from thank you notes for their wedding gifts. I'm hurt and offended that they completely cut me out of their lives after their weddings, and admit it was weird they even bothered to invite me to their weddings since they hadn't kept up with me for a few years prior. Is it completely inappropriate to write a note to ask for my wedding gifts back?

I am so sorry you feel slighted. When it comes to brides and grooms there is no explaining the rationale that sometimes goes into the wedding planning or the post event details. It is hard to imagine, but many couples even fail to send out thank-you notes and may even reject gifts that are not on their registry or to their liking. Since you were not particularly close to the couple in question, my advice is to take the high road, count the gift you gave as a loss in the books and move on with your life. Rather than waste more time on them, be glad they are not close friends and focus on those who are. You will surely come out on top in the end!

You should also consider this a valuable lesson learned for future invites. There is no need to feel obligated to attend every celebration, especially with long lost friends. And though you should always be sure to send a gift something thoughtful and inexpensive, like a donation to a charity, goes a long way.

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