Scared to Start with a Single Mom By Choice

Q: Several months ago I became friends with "Layla" who is a single mom, by choice, of a newborn. We have started spending all of our free time together and I am developing strong feelings for her.  For the first time in my adult life, I am too scared to make a move and am hoping you can help me overcome my fear.

If you're scared imagine how Layla feels!  Despite her independence and courage, everyone, close and removed, is probably treating her with kid gloves. To further complicate matters, she probably has had limited contact with a man in the last few years so chances are she is extremely nervous to let someone get close, especially now that there is a child involved.

The good news is that you're dealing with a woman who knows what she wants and is strong enough to say no if she finds herself in an uncomfortable or compromising situation. Be forewarned that even though she may be ready and wanting intimacy, thoughts of her child can interfere with her desires. To avoid this from happening, I suggest you take all measures to make sure she is in the right frame of mind to balance friendship, passion and responsibility.   Take it slow, and allow Layla the space and pace she needs to enjoy herself at liberty and give you both a chance to explore the possibilities of a relationship.

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