Sex Struggles for a Serious Couple

Q: My girlfriend and I are starting to get serious. The only problem is she only likes to have sex in one position, and is not a fan of oral sex. Any suggestions on how to make her open up in the bedroom?

This situation might really put your communication skills to a test but it's certainly worth a try. Do you know why your girlfriend only likes to have sex in one position? Has she had this problem in prior relationships? There can be many reasons why her preference is limited, including past trauma, pain, fantasies and inexperience. Does she enjoy sex in the one position in which she has it? If so, you might want to find out why. For example, does she feel more in control, less exposed, have more sensations, etc.? You can try to incorporate those things she likes into other positions. Always keep the dialogue going and let her communicate what feels good and what she needs from you. If you girlfriend doesn't seem open to this exploration, she might want to speak with a sex therapist.

DISCLAIMER: This format is general in nature and not intended as a personal response to each question nor is it a subtitute for individualized medical or psychological care, diagnosis or treatment.

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