She wants a kid but her boyfriend doesn't...

Q: I am a childless single woman who has been dating a divorced man with kids of his own for three great yeas. Three months ago this man broke up with me because he was not sure if he wants to have any more children (and I do). Over the course of our relationship he has confessed to having commitment issues. He wants me to meet someone who can give me what I want. Despite this, he is now dating another woman who he describes as "someone just to spend time with." I am struggling to move on and have tried dating, going out and just about everything to keep busy. Yet these thoughts rarely leave me. I feel I have lost out as we were totally compatible. Unfortunately the one and only problem we had turned out to be a big issue! Why can't I get over this, especially when he has? Why can men move on so quickly?

Wow, you seem to be dealing with not one but three very separate issues.Three years is a long time to invest in someone who has very different long-term relationship expectations. You need to get out of his head and into your own because no amount of time or reflection will change the one "big issue" you keep trying to resolve, let alone his commitment problems.

The love you shared with this man lead to his ability to tell you to move on is a gift, and I encourage you to run with it, at full speed. If you do want children then that should be your priority. But by continuing to question his intentions and actions all you are doing is standing still, which in the end will keep your from what you want and deserve most.

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