Single men out there, you better listen up!

Q: Where do you live?
Miller Beach, Indiana

Q: What's the biggest accomplishment you achieved on your own?
Completing my book, "Mode One: Let The Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"

Q: What inspired you to write your book Mode One: Let The Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking?
My older brother and some of my close friends urged me to write the book. Initially, I did not want my "Mode One" principles and philosophies to be published for the public to read. Later, I realized that the contents of my book actually could help [single] men. And the book has done just that.

Q: Based on your experience, what is the biggest mistake men make when it comes to their relationships with women?
Exhibiting weak, ineffective interpersonal communication habits and patterns. Also, trying too hard to present yourself as "Mr. Well-Mannered, Perfect Gentleman" to women. The latter will get you more compliments and platonic female friends than it will romantic companions and lovers.

Q: What are some of the communication skills men should use to be more effective in their relationships?
When you approach a woman, you should have a very good idea of why you want to share that woman's company (e.g., one-night stand? weekend fling? friends with benefits? potential long-term, monogamous relationship? etc.). Once you know what you want and why you want to spend time with a woman, you need to express your desires, interests and intentions to a woman in the most highly self-assured, upfront, and straightforwardly honest manner as possible.

Q: For many, the pick-up line is the hardest one to come by. Any conversation starters you would recommend when approaching a stranger?

Personally, I don't believe in pick-up lines. 90% of the time, they come across as corny or cliche. My conversation starters are usually bold, provocative, and to-the-point. I tend to get a lot of "Oh my God ... I don't believe you just said that!! You are so forward!!" type reactions. But those bold, upfront, straightforward approaches have served me well (smiles).

Q: What's the biggest mistake single men make when it comes to meeting women?

Being fearful of harsh criticisms, negative reactions and/or rejection.  Any single man should just approach a woman, confidently express his romantic and/or sexual desires, interests and intentions, and then leave the "ball in the woman's court," so to speak.


Q: What are some first date mistakes every single guy should avoid?

Spending too much money and/or expressing too much flattery.  In my experience, those are the top two things that most [single] men regret later on, in the event they get ultimately get rejected.


Q: For many, the pick-up line is the hardest one to come by. Any conversation starters you would recommend when approaching a stranger?

Generally speaking, I don't really believe in "rehearsed" or "pre-planned" conversation starters, but one I have used more than once is, "I think you and I should share each other's company one-on-one sometime within the next three-to-four weeks.  What are your thoughts on that?"


Q: Many people get to a point when they simply hate dating. How do you suggest they adjust their attitude?

No man or woman really "hates dating"; That is a misnomer.  What single men and single women hate is being harshly rejected, being mislead, and/or being manipulated by a member of the opposite sex.  For example, most women hate it when a man 'pretends' to be interested in a long-term, emotionally profound, monogamous relationship only to prove later that they just wanted to exchange orgasms;  Similarly, most men hate it when a woman 'pretends' to have a romantic interest or even an interest in casual sex, but in reality, that woman just wants flattery and/or financial favors from him.


Q: Best Online dating tip you offer to bachelors?

Be totally honest about your height, weight, level of career success and degree of financial stability and self-sufficiency.  Don't be fraudulent in regard to anything you have to offer.  Don't use photographs that are not representative of how you really look right now.


Q: What other love lessons, if any, do you offer to bachelors?

Always be upfront and straightforward regarding your true romantic and/or sexual desires, interests and intentions.  Don't attempt to mislead women and/or manipulate women.  It will come back to haunt you.


Q:  How you keep and decorate a home says a lot about a man. What are some bachelor pad must haves that will make a good first, second or overnight impression?

Very few men know how to really decorate their house, apartment or condominium.  I say, hire an interior decorator that can bring out your personality and your own personal style.


Q: Secret sex tip every man should know about

Never act overanxious, impatient and/or desperate for sexual companionship.  This turns women off big time.  Always give women the impression that you can wait longer than she can to exchange orgasms.  When you make a woman feel like the "impatient" one between you two, she will literally "jump your bones" at some point in the near future.


Q: You are also the host of an Internet Radio Show on the BlogTalkRadio network. What is the format of the show and the type of guests you typically interview?

My talk radio show on BlogTalkRadio is about anything and everything related to Dating and Relationships, and life as a single man or single woman. I interview anyone who I think can offer some knowledge, wisdom and advice to my listeners on how to improve their social life, their love life and/or their sex life. The interviews range from one-hour to sometimes as long as an hour-and-a-half. I enjoy it. My listeners learn a lot, and so do I.

Q: How and when can our readers tune in to listen to your radio show?

My show usually records LIVE on Thursday evenings at 10 PM EST / 9 PM CST / 7 PM PST. Any new listener can go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/modeone or http://www.modeone.net/radio and they will be able to listen to my LIVE episodes as well as my archived podcasts.

Q: Do you think the landscape has changed for single adults and, if so, what have been the most significant shifts you have witnessed?
The most significant shift I've seen in today's dating scene for singles would without question be the advent of the Internet. Prior to the Internet, most men and women looked to primarily communicate with those singles who lived in their geographical area. Now you have men and women in NYC expressing interest to men and women who live in Chicago, Dallas, Los Angeles, Miami, Phoenix or Seattle.

Also, there are more career-minded women in this day and age than ever before. The notion of the "stay-at-home wife" has diminished significantly. Especially with the challenges of a faltering economy. So men and women have had to adjust the "traditional roles" of most romantic relationships. Most media publications have noted: There are more women, ages 36 and older, who have never been married and don't have any children right now than at any time in U.S. history.

Q: Any other words of wisdom?
I say, leave the manipulative 'head games' alone. In the long-run, it doesn't benefit you ... and it surely doesn't benefit the men and women who you are pursuing for romantic and/or sexual companionship. Just being real, upfront and straightforward is the most mutually beneficial option. Secondly, quit blaming the opposite sex for all of your problems, disappointments, and frustrations related to your love life, or lack thereof. Take responsibility for your actions and your life. If a man or woman treated you in an undesirable and/or disrespectful manner more than once, that is YOUR fault. You allowed it to happen. Make a change! Take charge of your life!