Smooch and Tell Secrets

Q: Where are you from?
Born and raised in the San Francisco Bay Area

Q: Biggest accomplishment you achieved on your own?
Finding ways to survive life as a single, independent woman.

Q: Can you tell us a little bit more about your blog and what inspired you to start it?
I had just broken up with someone I cared about a lot and I felt like I really didn't know what I truly wanted from a relationship. So I began to blog about all of my past relationships and compared them to the men that I was meeting at the time. I really wanted to have an outlet where I could compare all of the relationships in my life and hopefully learn what I really wanted and didn't want in a partner.

Q: Name three things a man can do on a date that would make you lose interest?
1. Not offer to buy me a drink, 2. talk about his ex's too much, 3. not make eye contact

Q: What do you love most about being single?
I loved the freedom to be whoever I wanted to be, I didn't have to answer to anyone or be the "other half" of anyone. It was a very important time for me to really discover who I was and where I gained my self confidence from.

Q: Best spot to dine out alone in your area?
El Belazo, San Ramon, CA. I can never eat there without meeting someone new (you have to get your food and eat in the bar area!) All of my friends have the same social experience too!

Q: What advice would you give to singles that have put their lives on hold  until "they meet the one?"
STOP wasting your time! If you project all of your energy and dreams into the future, you will miss out on all of the great opportunities and experiences you could enjoy right now! Take that dream honeymoon trip NOW, buy that dream house NOW, start that dream business NOW!!

Q: Any self-confidence boosters for people who suffer dating jitters?
Honestly, go get your hair done or buy a new outfit. If you are super excited about how you look, you will feel really confident and it will spill out of you to everyone around you. I always say that confidence is like a halloween costume - at first you have to fake it a little and it will feel like you are trying to be someone you are not but once you show up at the party and everyone starts to compliment your costume, it will feel like a second skin!

Q: Breaking up with friends is one of the hardest things to do. What's the best way to handle it?
Take time to "mourn" but don't focus on the negative or go around talking bad about them - that's just an expression of pain. Try to revisit the same places you used to frequent together, but with new people so that you can make new memories. Most of all, give each other some space, don't call/text/stalk them. Most of all, just give yourself some time.

Q: How does one bounce back when all of one's friends suddenly get married?
Use it to your advantage! Ask your married friends to set you up with friends of their spouse! However, don't waste any time sitting home alone either...go join a club/group/organization that will introduce you to new people that have the same interests as you! There are a lot of great "singles" groups out there!!

Q: Any other words of wisdom?
Don't spend all of your time being worried that you don't meet "their" expectations, focus on your own expectations for yourself and don't compromise what you need for what you want!


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