The Art of Giving Good O: From a Female Point of View

Most men are spoiled. Not by their Moms, by Hollywood. And it’s wrecking women’s sex lives. Ironically, it ‘s the chick flick industry that’s partly to blame for making sex seem so…simple. It’s as if orgasms come easy to women when our bottoms are hoisted up onto the bowl of a hard, cold porcelain sink. Those who have been there know that all it really does is leave bruises on one’s coccyx.

Romantic comedies are designed to be flip, fast and funny, a women’s orgasm not so much. So, gentlemen, here is a crash course to remind you of the basics.  For the sake of women everywhere, we hope you will read on.

Heat Her Up with Head Play: The mind is a woman’s number one erogenous zone. Here’s a tip for you: we don’t actually like jerks we simply get turned on by them. It’s the mental teasing that gets us every time. If you want to get a woman’s body going in the bedroom, start by stimulating her brain (not her heart) with some intellectual toying. Don’t be afraid to play naughty – it’s the idea of being with a brazen and untamed alpha male that gets our juices flowing, not the act of being with one.

Refine Your Touch and Tickle: As Spiderman’s Uncle Ben once said “with great power comes great responsibility.” True for you too gentlemen! A man’s hands hold the key to opening the gates to a woman’s secret garden. So take heed - hard, quick jabs to the vagina with your fingers are not exactly flower-friendly. Remember too that the inner thighs like to be tickled as with the touch of a feather, the tush likes to be cupped and the clitoris is begging to be handled as if you were stroking the wings of a butterfly. Another sweet spot is the lower abdomen, from the groin to the ovaries, applying a little pressure to this region is welcome, according to the Kama Sutra.

Enjoy It When She Pleases Herself:  Really? If you really believe all women need is a penis consider this: according to Shere Hite, only 30 percent of women orgasm through penile penetration alone. If you do the math this means that a whopping 70% of all women require some sort of manual stimulation to reach orgasm. Yes, this may be frustrating but it can also be exciting, depending how intimate you make it. If a woman is comfortable enough to touch herself in front of you, don’t be afraid to show and tell her how much this arouses you. If she’s not, encourage her to start, as we promise it will do both bodies good

Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize: The clitoris is not a soap dispenser, so don’t keep pressing on it hoping fluid will appear. The inside of the vagina is where the wet happens, and gentle contact with a woman’s interior walls will get those juices flowing. How much fluid a women secretes depends on where she is in her cycle and age. It always helps to have a little lube on hand, and there is no shame in using it.

Toss-Out The Stop Watch: It takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average women to climax, for some that’s longer than an entire episode of The Office. While you’re busy trying to last longer, most women are counting the clock while riddled with guilt for taking so long. We would all get a lot more pleasure if we stopped obsessing about time.  The more relaxed and at ease a woman feels in your company, the more likely she will be to loosen up and erupt.