Want to Find Your Match

Q: You worked as a professional recruiter for fifteen years. What made you decide to become a matchmaker?
Ultimately it was a combination of factors. In the late 90's I became aware of something called "life coaching." I realized this was a burgeoning new career path that fit my talents and skills, so I became a Certified Life Coach with what was then the Franklin Covey Life Coach Training Program. The focus of my coaching practice was relationships and my client base was women. Typically the relationship issues my clients experienced had a lot to do with men: their lovers, husbands or the lack thereof. Fast forward to spring 2006 when a female colleague and I (we're both single) began to talk about how we should just recruit the perfect match for ourselves. I began to explore the possibilities of actually doing such a thing. The result is RelationshipMatch - which is the foundation of my matchmaking business.

Q: Why do you think individuals are increasingly seeking the services of professional matchmakers?
I think the primary reasons are time and integrity. When you are highly successful both are critical.
It takes an inordinate amount of time to sift through the thousands of online possibilities. In terms of integrity, there are online sites out there that I have personally tried who push so-called matches to you who have no interest in you whatsoever, they create winks and flirts from so-called interested members. Likewise, there are people whose profiles are templates for best-selling fiction.

With a matchmaker, particularly RelationshipRecruiters, we do the due diligence. Our 2-hour consultation and background check ensure that you are meeting someone with a high level of interest in you, who closely matches your requirements for a mate and whose identity has been verified.

Outside of these reasons, sometimes clients need assistance in refining their requirements for a mate or they need someone to work with them in presenting their best selves to potential mates. Our relationship expertise comes into play here with coaching services, image consulting and other recommendations as needed by the client.

Q: What do you think makes someone a good matchmaker?
The ability to elicit key information from potential clients & matches; the ability to have courageous conversations with people who are paying you large sums of money to help them; trustworthiness and a large network are an excellent start.

In my case, my recruitment and coaching background are a definite plus. The behavioral basis of our RelationshipMatch gives RelationshipRecruiters a distinct advantage in the marketplace.

Q: What 3 things should individuals learn before enlisting the services of a matchmaker?
Their methodology, what exactly they will do for you, and how their service aligns with your relationship goals.

Q: Do you deal with people of all ages, religions and backgrounds?
Yes. Typically the age rang is 25-65.

Q: How is performance measured? Do you have any success criteria or guarantees in place with each client?
We work with no more than 30 clients at any one time so as to ensure a high level of attention to each. Clear, consistent and open communication between the client/potential match & myself is essential to the success of the search.

In terms of guarantee, we guarantee a minimum of 3/6/12 qualified introductions per client depending on the match plan the client chooses.

Q: For many individuals safety and confidentially is a concern, especially when it comes to dating. What measures do you take to ensure security and privacy is handled properly?
All client and match files are confidential. We share last names and photos just prior to the first date. All clients and matches to whom they are introduced agree to a background check which covers criminal, sexual offender and employment verification at a minimum. We also ask for financial statements to corroborate income claims.

Q: Any other advice or tips you would like to share with our readers?
If a long-term relationship is your desire, then be willing to invest planning, action and expertise into achieving that result. Just as we accept that connecting to that great career opportunity may mean retaining professional assistance, optimizing the opportunity for creating a long-term personal relationship may also require professional resources.

I maintain an article page on the RelationshipRecruiters website. I will begin conducting a series of workshops in the coming months on such relationship related topics as communication, image and personal development via the web and in person.

I am also in the midst of writing a book entitled "The 3 C's of Relationships: Clarity, Communication & Connecting." The book deals with the importance of knowing what you want in relationships, the impact of effectively communicating and what it means to connect in a long-term relationship. The book will be on sale in time for the holidays.