Wedding Season Woes

Q: I have just been asked to be an usher at two weddings. Given the state of our economy, I am reluctant to dole out the extra cash when I myself am on a tight budget. Is there any way to fulfill the obligation, without blowing the bank on bachelor parties, hotels, flights, gift and attire?

If there ever was a time you could be honest about your finances, this is the time!  That is the good news.  You might want to start by deciding if you even want to be an usher in both of these weddings.  If you are doing either of them out of obligation, it is perfectly acceptable to decline the invitation to be an usher.  However, if you feel strongly that would like to be in both of these weddings, you can start by staying in a different hotel.

In fact, if you are looking for someone to share a room, I'm sure there is another usher or even wedding guest that is looking to save some money and will split your room in a less expensive hotel.  If you can, try and help plan some of the other events (bachelor party, attire), that way you can suggest less expensive alternatives as well.  Finally, the gift is the one area where you can spend truly what you can afford.  In this case, it really is the thought that counts.

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